Saturday, June 11, 2011

A Hiding Place.

The holding pattern has broken, and the Ahern clan is living... all over New England for the next month. Our worldly possessions (the least important part) are holed up in North Haven, CT. The Scientist Dad will be living and working in Amherst, MA. And the girls and I are up in the wilds of NH, enjoying the finer things in life at my parents' home.

I have always told my mom that, even long after her last child left for college, that she is still a stay-at-home mother. She chose not to pursue a career outside the home with her free time. She finished a Master's degree in theology and makes beautiful art on commission. She creates a home. And she has remained available to her grown children.

Together, she and my father have made for us a hiding place: a place, or sometimes a phone conversation, to which we can withdraw with our burdens and cares and fears. They are a place, a home, a conversation of love where we can enter without fear of any sort of rejection. They are there. And as my father is working and bringing home the bacon, as it were, mom's frying it in the kitchen.

Ah. Metaphors are not my strong suite.

How beautiful, though. We have relied on them for many material gifts over the years of grad school, illness, and sundry. There is no greater gift, however, I could have asked than this home. All my mother's years of daily grind for her are, for me, a joy and rest. I realize when I am with her that all the days that are, for me, grind and stress in my own home will be, for my own children, an unsurpassable gift.

Nothing was wasted. All was grace and love. In my hiding place with them, I have hope.

4 comments:

Melanie B said...

Erika, This is so beautiful. So hopeful. That a great gift to have such a lovely home to return to. Also a great grace to have such a perspective, to see for a moment through your daughters' future eyes how great a gift you are preparing for them.

Elizabeth said...

Happy tears. I am so happy for your family that you have this wonderful family to love and offer such a haven. It was a gift for us to spend time with Scientist Dad (& he is so very welcome to return and stay while working here), we so look forward to seeing you and the girls again soon.

lydiapurpuraria said...

Awesome. How wonderful for you to be able to retreat to your family! I miss my family terribly-their home is always a little chaotic, but it's also always full of love and comfort. Hopefully, I'll be able to pass this along to my daughter, even at a distance.

Young Mom said...

So beautiful. And it gives me hope that my daughters will feel this way about me someday.